How To Deal With Children That Are Too Obsessed With Being Cool/ Popular.
Being a parent could be the greatest challenge in your life. This is especially true for parents that are watching their children grow so quickly. As we watch our kids grow, we will observe that they become more and more conscious on what people and even other kids would have to say about them. Believe it or not, being “cool” is very important for our kids during this particular phase. Suddenly, they feel embarrassed when seen with us. They want to maintain an independent and cool image in front of their peers. Being popular and being able to fit in are the main reasons why they do this.
If your child is one of them, you have to be aware of the fact that it is very tough to be a kid. Listed below are some tips that will guide parents if one day they notice that their kids are too obsessed with being cool.
1. Let your kids be.
This may be hard to believe at first but the best solution to this dilemma is to let our children be. As adults, we understand the fact that being popular and being cool means very little to us. But you have to understand that kids are still kids. Back in the days when we were kids, it is likely that we think the same way they do.
It will benefit you and your kid a a lot if you just stay calm and let him be as he deals with this tough part of his life. If you have the budget for it, treat your kid and get him the things he is desperate for. But of course, it is not smart to break the bank just for your kid to be popular. For as long as your kid does not demand or becomes too obsessed on buying the things he likes just to fit in and become one of the cool kids in school, then just let him be because this is normal.
2. Let them know what really matters.
In the event that your child goes too far and he is starting to lose perspective, help him by simply letting him know the things that really matter. Do not discourage them, do your best to explain to them that their attitude and actions will play an important role when it comes to being accepted and popular. Let them know the importance of being friendly and kind and that it is not our clothes or things that makes us cool/ popular.
3. You have to communicate with your children.
If you are having problems with your kid, you have to take the time to communicate with him. Tell them that they are very fortunate compared to other kids in the globe, that they are lucky to have a good family that loves them and gives them food and shelter everyday. Communicate well with your kid so he does not resent you by not giving him what he likes.